In life we are given many choices and our happiness depends on the choices we make.
51- Seek constant stimulation or embrace silence:
Recommendation: A moment of silent meditation, of solitude, without the distraction of outside stimulus, can help us see clearly and understand deeply. We are not used to the absence of words anymore and mostly try to fill in the quiet moments in meetings or any other interactions.
52- Surrender your beliefs and values or be true of yourself:
Recommendation: There is no way to lead a fulfilling life without being genuine and real. Know yourself, know your values and what you care about most and then commit to living the kind of life that would embody your values.
53- Ignore others or see the other:
Recommendation: See each person as a complete human being and get to know them. Truly see the value and worth of the person who you meet every day.
54- Insist on perfection or recognize when good enough will do:
Recommendation: You would be maximising the likelihood of finding happiness if you are content with what is good enough and not chase perfection.
55- Act on your emotion or actively accept your emotion:
Recommendation: When we go through an emotion, there are two choices we make. 1- Accept or reject the emotion. Note that accepting the emotion does not mean that you like how you feel, rather it is about allowing yourself to fully experience it. 2- Automatically react or think about the most appropriate way to act in the given situation.
When going through strong emotions, it is wise to give yourself the time to cool down.
56- Experience the dullness in the routine or experience excitement:
Recommendation: Even in routine, view the world with the fresh eyes of a child and you will see yourself being excited on small things.
57- Fight the storm or observe the storm:
Recommendation: Mindfulness means seeing things as they are, without trying to change them. The point is to dissolve our reactions to disturbing emotions, being careful not to reject the emotion itself. – Tara Bennett Goleman
When you are in a tough situation, try to calm down, step back and observe. It is sometimes by doing nothing, by letting go rather than trying to do something, that difficulties pass and problems are resolved.
In each moment of your life you are choosing whether to be mindful or not. – Psychiatrist Jeffrey Schwartz
58- Be unforgiving and harsh toward yourself or treat yourself with kindness and generosity:
Recommendation: The saying, don’t do unto others, what we would not do to ourselves, do not apply any more as we are often less generous and less forgiving to ourselves than to others. Do not think of self love as something negative. If you are taken care of only then you can take care of others.
59- Run on empty or fill up:
Recommendation: Apart from eating and sleeping also do the activities that help you recharge your emotional and spiritual batteries. Be aware of what activities help you refuel, regenerate, re energise and refill.
60- Succumb to feeling overwhelmed or think global, act local:
Recommendation: There is so much we can do that is overwhelming. Know your power and your importance in this world and do whatever you can to make a difference in anyone’s life on your level.
